Homework Blues

4 Dec

Want to see something that breaks my heart?

This is M about 20 minutes into homework tonight.



Watching your child struggle every night over homework is heartbreaking.

We have one who excels at everything academically – not so much physically.
This one excels at everything physically and socially – not so much academically.
Cora seems to be excelling at both.

Where does that leave this young sir?

Frustrated, sad and lacking confidence.

We started Vision Therapy where we were told that his eyes weren’t focusing at the same pace, so he was struggling SO very hard to focus that there wasn’t much room to advance with learning.

We’re faithfully doing our eye exercises that take about 20 minutes a night on top of going to the vision therapist once a week for 24 weeks. We’re on week 8.

Things are not getting better yet.

His teacher says he struggles to even answer a question out loud in fear of getting it wrong.  But no one can argue that he tries SO hard.  He truly tries harder in everything than my oldest who skates through it all.  He isn’t struggling out of lack of determination.

But he’s the first one to raise his hand for a game of soccer, basketball, tag or really anything that requires physical movement and social skill.  The kid has more friends than I ever had. Everyone thinks he’s just the best kid and his smile can light up a room.

Homework takes about 1 1/2 hours each night. (On top of our vision therapy. On top of special tutoring.)
There are tears on the majority of them.
Some nights he has 30 minutes or less to unwind before bed.

My heart is breaking for him and my prayer is that it will all of a sudden click for him.  The vision therapy will work and his eyes will get stronger and our nights, though filled with homework, can show more of that smile than those tears.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”
― Maya Angelou


3 Responses to “Homework Blues”

  1. Wendi December 4, 2012 at 3:56 am #

    Sweet sweet baby boy!! Reminds me so much of my Pauly….

  2. grammom December 4, 2012 at 3:24 pm #

    I’ve been thinking about the kids and each one has a very wonderful distinctive personality that make me so proud. Each one brings a different kind of smile to my face. Thank you for giving these bright lights to us Jennifer and Dave. 🙂

  3. koreamom6 December 14, 2012 at 12:37 am #

    Sweet boy. Much of what you mentioned reminds me of our Littlest. I don’t know if attention is an issue, or distractability, but it is in a big way for my guy. Another TAK mom suggested a supplement that’s really helped so much, which he takes along with Nordic Naturals DHA. It’s not the answer to everything but is helping a great deal with concentration, and making math that took over an hour do-able – correctly – in 20 minutes. http://www.amazon.com/Source-Naturals-Attentive-Chewable-Wafers/dp/B000GFPCW0/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1355445313&sr=8-1&keywords=attentive+child

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